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Showing posts with label addiction. Show all posts
Showing posts with label addiction. Show all posts

Friday, 8 June 2018

Couples Therapy: Addiction


Addiction is a worldwide epidemic. Sugars, nicotine, gambling, pornography; we humans appear to have something ingrained within our nature that makes us become compulsive, and once the habit becomes set it is incredibly difficult to move away from it. Add chemical addiction to a behavioural habit and you have a recipe for a life-threatening condition.  

The addicted individual must genuinely want to make a change. It’s a cliche we have all heard, but one very true and the first step toward making any kind of change. How one fosters that motivation is the million-dollar question. Encouragement, education, doctor’s warnings, bodily dysfunction, scientific facts, threats - each have varying levels of success. Many will just take time to process all the information until they find a point in their life where they just feel ready to change, or sometimes they sadly never will.

Hypnotherapy can’t work without motivation, and neither will prescribed medications.
With couple’s therapy in addiction it is much the same thing. There needs to be motivation to work, but if both people buy into the idea of being free from addiction then the added support that brings through companionship in the journey can be priceless. You want to be free from addiction for yourself and so your partner can be free and healthy too. Often doing something for someone else’s benefit has an even stronger motivating force.

In an ideal world couples will support one another and promote positive change, although sadly this is not always the case and is why professional help is often sought.  

Partners can negatively affect us. Imagine you are trying not to eat biscuits while your partner consumes them in front of you night and day, leaves packets around the house and talks about them non-stop. The routine of consuming sugars is triggered within you constantly by the numerous sensual and visual cues making it all the harder to escape from.

Jealous partners who can’t quit themselves try to make themselves feel better by dragging their other half down with them. At heart we like to share in our addictions, its part of the disease.
A non-addicted partner can also have a negative influence while trying to be positive. Maintaining standards that are too high or having an attitude that does not aid a progressive environment is common. Frustration in progress can manifest with comments like; ‘You will never quit!’ which can leads to self-fulfilling prophecy. Incredulous reactions; ‘I can’t believe your still drinking after what happened to your father!’ ‘You’ve just had a heart attack!’ We hear ‘No’ and our subconscious minds rebel.

That said being perfectly supportive often isn’t enough either – so what is the right approach truly?
The NCBI https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2851021/ report that couples therapy statistically works better than individual therapy. This does not surprise me, but it is fascinating nonetheless. From personal experience I have seen favourable results from couple’s therapy in the smoking cessation clinic I run, but why does this happen?

We are social creatures after all, so when we do things together they become more powerful experiences. The reflective period post session becomes greater due to the interactive nature of being able to share upon what transgressed. Perhaps witnessed therapy becomes sessions we cannot escape the truth of.    

The NCBI report talks about addiction being not an individual problem but a family one, where our social interactions reinforce addictive behaviours. Thus by having Behavioural Couples Therapy the problem is being targeted at its root in hope to making the lasting changes we aim for.


Wednesday, 26 February 2014

5 Reasons Why Television Is So Addictive

It’s okay, we understand. You likely have over five shows on TiVo, and your Sunday nights are devoted to Downton Abbey and Girls. You’re eagerly awaiting Sherlock, which returns on Jan. 19, and we know you’re on top of House of Cards‘ release on Netflix on Valentine’s Day (forget restaurant reservations–you’ll be on the couch).
When it comes to today’s top shows, it’s about more than just good TV. We are literally obsessed. But what makes them so hard to turn off? Here’s our list of what is getting you hooked — and keeping you that way.
1. Rapid-fire scenes — you can’t look away 
You may have noticed that many shows jump quickly from one scene to another, or flit between characters in the same scene. That’s all designed to keep you glued to the screen, says Robert Kubey, a psychologist and professor of journalism media studies at Rutgers University in New Jersey. “We are talking about the rapid cutting or the quick montage,” he says. According to his research, rapid scene changes are especially engaging to watch, and that can lead to zoning out (wait, it’s four hours later already?). Commercials take full advantage of this tactic, flashing multiple images within a few seconds to grab, and hold your attention — look away and you miss something. Watching a person drink coffee in a coffee shop is not as effective in drawing us in as, say, switching back and forth between characters in a conversation, or an epic battle scene that quickly switches from one gory assault to another. Kubey says this reaction is wired into our biology. It’s called our orienting reflex, which involves our ability to react to movements around us, like a fly avoiding the swat of a hand. Our orienting reflex is triggered when we watch these scenes, and we become more engaged with what’s happening to the point that it’s physically hard for us to look away.
2. The controlling director
Research from Princeton University found that the more a director controls a viewer’s focus in a scene, the more engaged his audience becomes. Psychologist Uri Hasson and his colleagues took fMRI images of the brains of viewers who watched clips from The Good, the Bad and the Ugly, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Bang! You’re Dead and an unedited shot of Washington Square Park in New York City. They monitored how similar the brain activity of the viewers were, in order to get a sense of which scenes captured their attention. Only 5% of the participants shared similar reactions to the Washington Square Park clip, 18% had the same activity patterns to Curb Your Enthusiasm45% had the same brain patterns to The Good, the Bad and the Ugly, but 65% had synced brain activity in response to Alfred Hitchcock’s Bang! You’re Dead. The researchers,who published their findings in the journal Projections, concluded that the more controlling a director is with a scene, the more engaging, and potentially hard to avoid, it is. Every scene in a Hitchcock movie, for example, is intentional and planned out. He points you exactly where he wants you to look, and there is very little variability in what viewers watch. House of Cards employs a similar technique; its directors dictate where they want viewers to look — when Kevin Spacey addresses the audience, everything else fades into the background, and it’s just him and you.
3. What happens next?! The cliffhanger
This one is the most obvious, and perhaps most common tactic that TV and movie producers use. But it always works. In the final scene of the Sherlock season 2 finale, Sherlock falls to his apparent death, only to be spotted again, watching his partner Dr. Watson lamenting his death at his own tombstone. Wait, is he really alive? According to Kubey, TV shows even use mini-cliffhangers before each commercial break to make sure the viewer doesn’t change channels. “The cliffhanger makes you want to come back and ask for more,” he says. Even in the age of recording TV shows or streaming on Netflix, there’s nothing like leaving viewers hanging to keep them hooked.
4. Sex — blatant, implied, or anticipated
Humans are hard wired to respond to sex and violence–but most strongly to sex. Both, after all, are critical to our survival. “It’s dramatic whether two people in a scene are going to consummate the relationship,” says Kubey. “There’s a suspense, and it’s arousing and hard to pull away.” Sex is appealing to us on a base level–since it’s our means to procreate–and we get a kick out of watching it too, in fact it’s one of our favorite things to watch. Sometimes for hours (Think porn).
5. Violence…we find it oddly appealing
Violence on the other hand, is hard for some to watch. So what is it about violence and the danger it represents that attracts people to such content? One recent study from researchers at the University of Augsburg, Germany and the University of Wisconsin-Madison found that people are more likely to watch movies with gory scenes and violence if they think there is meaning or purpose behind it — say, revenge or justice. ”Perhaps depictions of violence that are perceived as meaningful, moving and thought-provoking can foster empathy with victims, admiration for acts of courage and moral beauty in the face of violence, or self-reflection with regard to violent impulses,” said study author Anne Bartsch in a statement. Other research suggests that people are not necessarily attracted to violence, but may be drawn to the content because, similar to the way that sex scenes are appealing, they enjoy the anticipation, thrill and suspense of the scenes.
http://www.time.com/time/

Sunday, 11 March 2012

How Can You Be Addicted to a Behaviour?

In the world of addiction treatment, there are two major areas of concern: addiction to substances, and addiction to patterns of behaviour. Substance addictions involve abuse of and dependency upon chemicals such as alcohol, nicotine, prescription drugs, and illegal drugs like heroin and cocaine.

Behavioural addictions, often called “process” addictions, involve problematic repetitive behavior patterns involving potentially pleasurable or compulsive activities such as gambling, sex, working, spending, eating, etc. Some individuals struggle with both types of addiction simultaneously.

Sadly, the general public often mistakenly views process addictions as “moral flaws” or as “less serious” than substance addictions, yet those of us who treat these concerns directly witness first hand the countless ways in which out-of-control impulsive, compulsive, and addictive behaviours wreak as much havoc on families, careers, and lives as drug addiction and alcoholism.


We also see that process addictions often contribute significantly to substance abuse relapse.
Adding to the confusion is the fact that these potentially addictive behaviors are usually healthy, essential activities with which the majority of the population has little concern or personal struggle. Activities like eating and sex contribute to individual survival AND survival of the human race, so our brains are programmed to encourage these behaviors. As such, these activities trigger a dopamine response in the rewards center of the brain, resulting in feelings of pleasure.


In other words, our brains are programmed to encourage these behaviors by making them highly pleasurable. Addictive drugs and alcohol trigger a similar neural response, but drugs induce pleasurable distraction simply by being ingested – no activity required.

This biochemical pleasure process is a key element in the development and maintenance of both substance and behavioural addictions. Individuals who struggle with underlying emotional or psychological issues such as early-life or profound adult emotional trauma, anxiety, low self-esteem, poor social skills, and depression unconsciously learn to “abuse” the brain’s dopamine response via a substance or pleasurable activity – eating, sex, gambling, etc. – as a means of coping with stress and/or masking emotional pain. Repeatedly using a substance or pleasurable behaviour in this way “teaches” the brain that the way to feel better is to take more of that drug or engage in more of that behavior. Eventually, the brain becomes hardwired for a drug or behavioural addiction.


Process addictions are often first assessed during an initial course of treatment for drug and alcohol addiction, identified as either as a co-occurring disorder (meaning two disorders are present at the same time), or a cross addiction (meaning the addict uses one addiction to replace another). Here are a few common scenarios:
  • After leaving residential drug and alcohol treatment, Suzanne – who had never struggled with weight problems when she was active in her addictions to nicotine, alcohol, and prescription drugs – gains 40 pounds in less than a year by replacing her substance addiction with a process addiction, compulsive eating.
  • While beginning to attend AA meetings following primary alcohol treatment, Jack, a married 35-year-old with a history of infidelity, finds himself “getting off” by “hitting on” women he meets in meetings. Over time he becomes so consumed by sexual affairs and casual relationships outside his marriage that he loses focus on the work of recovery and relapses.
  • Jeff, a 28-year-old recovering addict, missing the rush that drugs used to provide, uses online gaming and gambling as a distraction from his desire to use. Unfortunately, he finds himself unable to stop gambling despite emptying his bank account, maxing out his credit cards, and depleting his child’s college fund in exchange for the compulsive highs he finds online.
To better understand how compelling and addictive a “process disorder” can be, consider the drug addict who – cash in hand – has finally found a source for the drugs he so eagerly desires. Isn’t he “high” already? After all, his thinking is impaired, he’s making bad decisions, and he feels compelled to purchase the drugs no matter the cost. The closer he gets to actually getting high, the harder his heart pounds, the more clammy his hands feel, the more tunnel-visioned and misinformed his thinking becomes. And yet, to this point, there are no “drugs” in his system.

Process addictions function in much the same way. For example, sex addicts find as much excitement in the hunt and search for their next sexual hook-up as in the sex act itself. Sex addicts refer to this condition as being “in the bubble.” They can spend hours, sometimes even days, in this elevated state – high on the goal/idea of having sex – without any physical contact and without engaging in any sexual act… yet. In other words, for both drug addicts and process addicts, the fantasies and rituals that precede their actual using or “acting-out” behaviors are every bit as compelling and addictive as the actual drug or behaviour.

Furthermore, the core elements of addiction can be seen in both substance and process addictions, including:
  • Loss of control
  • Continuation despite negative consequences
  • Failed attempts to curtail the behavior or quit the substance
  • Tolerance
  • Preoccupation to the point of obsession with the behavior or substance
  • Withdrawal symptoms
  • Cravings
Last year the American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM) set forth a definition of addiction that encompasses both substance and process addictions. ASAM intelligently recognized that all addictions stem from similar neurobiological processes. And yet, process addictions remain largely undefined elsewhere, particularly in the DSM-IV-tr, excepting impulse control disorders and gambling. This clinical misalignment has created an ongoing level of uncertainty surrounding diagnosis and treatment.

One significant area of difference between the treatment of process and substance addictions is in the definition of sobriety. Whereas complete abstinence is typically expected in drug and alcohol treatment, those addicted to food, work, sex, and other normal aspects of life learn to be sober by carefully defining the behaviors that don’t compromise the values and relationships they hold most dear and by learning how to engage in those behaviours moderately and appropriately. In other words, sexual sobriety and food addiction sobriety involve careful, ongoing commitment to change – but not long-term abstinence.

As with substance addiction recovery, the journey toward living free from addictive behaviors such as sex, gambling, and compulsive overeating is a complex, long-term process that requires professional counseling and/or integrated treatment from a team experienced in addressing the specific process addiction and any co-occurring emotional or substance disorders.

Reducing shame and stigma are essential in treating the process addictions. Sadly, our culture has limited understanding and compassion for these problems, more often viewing them as moral failings or character flaws, rather than as adaptive behaviors utilized for emotional stability and survival. Until the late 1970s (a period that evolved a sea-change in our understanding of the addictive process), our culture considered alcoholics to be “bums.” In much the same way, sex addicts are still perverts, and overeaters are just fat and lazy. So we still have a long way to go.

Robert Weiss is the author of three books on sexual addiction and Founding Director of the premiere sex addiction treatment program, The Sexual Recovery Institute. He is Director of Sexual Disorders Services at The Ranch and Promises Treatment Centers. These centers serve individuals seeking sexual addiction treatment,love addiction treatment, and porn addiction help. Specifically, the Centers for Relationship and Sexual Recovery at The Ranch (CRSR) offer specialized intimacy, sex and relationship addiction treatment for both men and women in gender-specific, gender-separate treatment and living environments.

By Robert Weiss




Wednesday, 2 November 2011

Abuse of Painkillers Reaches 'Epidemic' Levels in US

Abuse of prescription painkiller have reached "epidemic" levels in the US, a government report says.
Overdoses of pain relievers cause more deaths than heroin and cocaine combined, the report has found.
It says sales and prescriptions of the drugs rose sharply in recent years and this was linked to the rise in overdoses.
Narcotic painkillers are prescribed to relieve chronic pain but the drugs can be "highly addictive", the report says.
The report, published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), said fatalities caused by narcotic pain relievers have more than tripled in the last 10 years - equivalent to 40 deaths a day.
Last year, a national survey on drug use and health showed that one in 20 Americans over the age of 12 said they had used painkillers for non-medical reasons.
Named as the fastest growing drug problem facing the US, narcotic painkillers are increasingly used recreationally - for the high they cause.
Surging sales
"Almost 5,500 people start to misuse prescription painkillers every day," said Pamela Hyde, administrator for the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, a federal body.
Sales of the drugs to pharmacies and health care facilities have surged more than 300% since 1999, according to figures from the Drug Enforcement Administration.
But prescriptions of the drug have risen sharply too.
The report says enough medicine was prescribed last year to keep every American adult medicated for one month.
Florida was found to have the highest rate of sales of narcotic painkillers per person, almost three times the rate in Illinois, which had the lowest rate.
Officials believe state health policies can help reverse the trend.
The report recommends tracking prescriptions more carefully and cracking down on "pill mills" (clinics that prescribe drugs inappropriately) and "doctor shopping" (when patients collect prescriptions from several doctors).
"This highlights the importance of states getting policies right on preventing drug abuse," CDC Thomas Frieden told the Associated Press news agency.
In 2008, almost 15,000 deaths were caused by prescription painkillers, including the death of actor Heath Ledger.
Taken from BBC NEWS