by Victoria Gallagher, C.M.Ht.
Sexual dysfunction is a quiet subject. It’s a problem that is common among numerous couples and individuals. However, most people believe that they are abnormal, weird, or different when they are faced with these situations. The calls I receive in my office tell me that people are uncomfortable with the idea of talking about for help. I often hear words like, “I have this little problem,” or “it’s hard to talk about” or as many would say “It’s kind of embarrassing” and others plead “Please don’t laugh.” However, what they have found is just by acknowledging their problem to another person, whether it’s me the professional, or just a trusted friend, there is some relief in just talking about it. It is also comforting to know that it’s actually a pretty common issue that is usually easily handled in only a few sessions.
The sad truth is however, for most, it rarely gets talked about. Those who suffer, do so quietly. Feeling tense, lonely, afraid and sometimes in denial, many people find it too embarrassing to talk about or to find solutions so they settle in silence for mediocre to no sex at all.
Feelings of despair hopelessness about ever having a good sex life perpetuates the problem even more. The fear of failure or performance anxiety can cause a persons sex life to come to a screeching halt. Sometimes sex can feel like such a difficult task for both men and women and once you’ve decided how difficult it is, your subconscious mind goes along with this belief and creates that scenario. You may just find yourself giving up on your partner or worse yet, giving up on yourself. However, the more a person avoids dealing with the issue, the bigger the problem becomes. It’s a vicious cycle.
It doesn’t have to be this way. If you’ve ever suffered from any of the following: Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, Inhibited Sexual Desire, Sexual Arousal Disorder, Vaginisumus, or either Orgasmic Disorders, you will be interested in reading on.
Your mind is a very powerful organ. It is much more powerful than your sexual organs; hence the reason for yoursexual dilemma’s in the first place. Once a belief about a thing gets stuck in that part of your mind that controls how your body operates, it must act in accordance with that belief. Your subconscious mind accounts for 90% of your mind. All of your beliefs, memories, emotions, and bodily controls are handled by that part of your mind. Your conscious mind has no direct contact with that part of your mind and therefore usually has n`o clue what limiting beliefs are keeping you from enjoying greater sexual satisfaction.
Most often the root of the problem is stored in your subconscious mind, not in your sex organs. Whether it’s lack of desire, inability to climax, sexual pain, inhibitions... it almost always starts with an emotional memory that you may not realize you have. Many times it’s something simple, like being caught masturbating. How a persons first experience with sex goes, can have a lifelong effect on the way the person performs. Religious upbringing can have leave old guilty feelings imprinted on the subconscious mind. Even a one-time experience with having someone say something insensitive to you about your sexuality during love-making can bring about feelings of insecurity. As simple as the most minute experience might seem, it can have a profoundly damaging and lasting effect on a persons sex life. Whatever the root cause, Hypnotherapy can help you release the emotional memory so you can enjoy sex once again.
Hypnotherapy for sexual dysfunction has been proven over and over. Hypnotherapy can uncover the underlying problem by tapping into your subconscious mind, where every experience you’ve ever had is stored. Once you have an understanding of this problem, you can release these anxieties, limiting beliefs or past trauma’s and give your subconscious mind new understandings that will get your mind working for you instead of against you.
Just to demonstrate the way your brain controls every function in your body let’s use your imagination for just a moment. I want you to think about a lemon for just a moment, and imagine cutting that lemon in quarters. That’s right just cut right threw that fresh tart, yellow lemon and notice all the juice that’s squirting out around the lemon. Now imagine taking one those lemon wedges, bringing it up to your nose and smelling it. Finally, imagine putting it in your mouth and sucking all the juice out if it. Do you notice what is happening? If you are like most people, your mouth would be watering right about now.
If you felt your mouth watering, you already know how hypnosis works and that it will work for you. Now imagine how good it will be to stop the anxiety and embarrassment and take back your sex life.