Free Online Therapy

In my line of work I frequently come across people who claim they would love to take up therapy of some kind, but don't have the time or the money to pursue such action.

'What could be more important than improving psychological health?' I hear you say, but it's not that simple. Families, bills, addictions, debts, education costs - and probably a host of other things all come before taking a roll of the dice upon a therapy that may or may not work. Perhaps the mental block of 'I cannot be cured anyway' is the most telling factor; of course a self-defeating prophecy.

Theoretically then, in a society where therapy was completely free and flexible, accessible at any time; what would it change?

Would it attract droves of people into therapy? Would more severe mental health conditions be averted if they were caught and treated at an early stage? Would millions be saved in industry through less sick days being taken and hence loss of personnel?

The real life experiment is well underway in the UK, with those exact same goals in mind.
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/24/health/england-mental-health-treatment-therapy.html

I think its a brilliant idea, although still far from the 'utopia' of perfect therapy. There are still teething problems such as waiting times, while technology can certainly be used for the better in future practice. All the same its a huge step in the right direction for mental health. Just making mental health issues an acceptable and approachable subject is a big step, as bottling things up inside is never a good recipe for long term health.

If you don't live in the UK or a country providing such service, what then? Free online therapies can be found, mainly in the form of forums/chat rooms focused on different mental health themes. Seeing a therapist in person is rare to find, as therapists will expect to be paid for their time other than in exceptional circumstances. The online community is different however and the links below are just the tip of the iceberg of what can be found.

http://www.healthfulchat.org/mental-health-chat-rooms.html
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/online-safety-and-support/finding-support/#.W3kvQuhKjIU
https://mashable.com/2014/05/01/get-help-anonymously/?europe=true#d1Ox.ouQ2mqP
https://freeonlinetherapy.org/free-online-therapy-guide/

Sharing feelings is therapeutic. Friends and family who listen can be wonderful therapists. Paying huge sums for a highly qualified therapist does not guarantee they are the best person for you. An issue with free therapies can be people working unlicensed/untrained - so always check the validity of any organisation/individual before proceeding.

The Social Problems of Social Media

The MSN 'Loneliness Campaign' in the UK recently ran an interesting article about the social media paradox; essentially that social media sets out to be 'social' but actually leads to increased loneliness due to users spending more time in the virtual word of screens and smartphones as oppose to 'real' face to face interactions with friends. The above links provide the full articles.

Personally speaking I have certainly dabbled with social media, but since becoming a father I found I could no longer justify the time I was spending mindlessly surfing through pictures of dinner plates, taken by people I barely know. Thus the Twitter and Facebook addiction went four years ago, and I have no intention of going back!

Another thing I don't like about social media, and the internet in general, that is not mentioned in the article, is the general nasty attitude you find everywhere, like looking under rocks for worms (no offence to the worm intended there). From forums, youtube comments or live chat formats almost across the board - one and all seem to fall foul of argumentative, aggressive and abusive dialect between users. Why is that? https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-psychology-of-internet-rage-2018051713852 comments on several themes.

I have heard the term 'keyboard warrior' be used to describe those whom fall into such category; the idea that sitting anonymously behind a keyboard people will say things they would never dare to in a face to face situation. Perhaps the anonymity aspect is key here, and of course that there is absolutely no consequence to actions. You can call someone any range of names then log off in full knowledge you could never be caught or traced.

Maybe its something linked to the reasons we can become animals behind the wheel, cursing streams of abuse in the safety of our vehicle that we (most of us at least) would not do in a pedestrian situation. https://www.osv.ltd.uk/road-rage/ says that there is limited ways to express our feelings to other road users in a car which then leads to frustrated gestures that can quickly escalate into rage... can the same be said of non-verbal communications in social media?

In previous years I have gotten into trivial arguments with people online which I admit got me quite annoyed. I wasted precious moments of my life thinking of clever ways to win a petty debate, one that had no end until one party gave up and 'walked away.' Such scenarios are easy to find online, as are torrents of abuse. It cant all just be bored teenagers can it?

Is such phenomena a healthy release valve of inner frustrations? Or do they foster negative personality disorders and consequently make them worse?

One study https://www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/health/posting-lots-of-photos-on-instagram-could-be-a-sign-of-depression-a3606616.html find the link between what photos are posted on social media and depression. I'm sure we all know someone who goes to great pains to illustrate their lives as overly happy, adventurous, exciting places through the photos they continue to post, only to meet them in person and think quite the opposite. Is it over simplified to think that some people use such photo posting techniques to compensate for feeling of inadequacy? I don't think it is.

Like medicines, martial arts and a plethora of other things, I suppose the internet is a wonderful tool when used correctly but when used incorrectly then it can be something negative, in worst cases dangerous. I chose to use social media sparingly and not rely on virtual relationships as I value face to face interactions as healthier and more enjoyable.